Rules and Boundaries are a necessity in helping young children make the right choices. The understanding of right and wrong is something, as grown ups, we need to teach them. It is completely normal, and understandable when children test limits. Infact, it’s actually a good thing! This gives them the opportunity to understand what’s right and what’s wrong. Having rules and boundaries helps children develop skills such as self discipline and respect for later in their life.
Rules in the Hive
Our Hive children are aged 2-3 years old. At this age, children will start to push limits, test rules and so that they can start to understand them. Keep rules simple, important and achievable.
Constant reminders and repetition of habits help children pick up rules. Every morning the Hive go through their rules at circle time.
Our Hive rules are:
- Looking eyes, to encourage children to look at others when they are talking to them.
- Listening ears, to encourage children to listen to others when they are talking to them.
- Teeth are for biting apples, so that children only bite their food.
- Gentle hands, to remind children to be kind with their hands.
- Walking feet, to remind children not to run indoors.
We do encourage more rules for the children to follow, but we like to keep them simple so they are easy to follow and understand. Remember, repetition is key, the more you emphasise the importance of these rules, the better children will understand them.
Every child is different, so every child needs nurturing in different ways. Consider their stage and nurture them accordingly.
How rules and boundaries make us feel
To remind children the importance of rules, we want them to understand how adhering to rules, or breaking rules can make people around them feel.
Tracey took a small group of children and together, they went through the Hive rules and spoke about what each rule meant. The children understood all the rules! For example how “Walking feet” meant to “not run inside.” They then read a story about feelings to remind the Hive about different feelings such as “happy” and “sad” and spoke about what made us happy and sad.
Tracey went through rules such as “if we bite our friends” or “if we give our friends a cuddle” and asked the Hive to place them on either the happy face or the sad face. Every child in the group knew which rules would make us sad and which ones would make us happy.
The children in the Hive explored different emotions by using the mirrors. They explored their happy faces and sad faces! Well done Hive.